The Great Dating Experiment

Who you gonna call...Ghostbusters?

Happy Friday blog friends!  I hope this week has treated you well and that you have amazing Halloween plans for the weekend.  Halloween is one of my favorite times of year and I look forward to pumpkins, costumes, and most importantly...candy!  One thing that I don't like, are ghost stories...but here's one that crept into my life recently...

"Ghosting Out" is a term used when someone you are seeing just drops off the face of the Earth.  Most recently I've had some trouble getting in touch with a guy, we'll call "A".  We were hanging out once a week, having a blast, and then suddenly he is super busy and stops returning texts, messages, and calls.  In his defense, "A" did text me once in 2 weeks and I never got the text...but again, once in 2 weeks?  That seems like minor effort...

At first, I thought he really was super busy.  I'm now suspicious that he has "ghosted out" on me.  No guy who's truly interested, just stops communicating for weeks on end...right?  All signs point to move on.  Unfortunately, I'm still smitten with the guy and am having trouble letting it go. 

Ghosting out is a scary story...one I don't recommend anyone repeats.  You want blood and gore?  Just look at my heart - it's totally broken :(

Ghostbusters is on my speed dial if you need them...

Socioeconomic Status

Good afternoon!  I hope you all had a lovely weekend.  In my hometown the weather was glorious and I had a busy weekend with 3 of my dearest friends.  As the weekend wrapped up I had a "phone date" with a Match.com guy - we'll call him "J".  Here's the story...

J called me at 8pm to chat.  Last time we talked I had a really hard time hearing the guy...so I wasn't 100% sure this call would be better.  Thankfully, on my cell phone, he was coming in slightly louder...but he was still into mumbling.  So we talk to 40 minutes about this and that...then we discuss getting together for a real date. 

He wants to come up to my neck of the woods (which is nice of him) - but he keeps asking where we can find a jazz club.  I tell him, there aren't any that I know of...but there are some cute restaurants we can check out.  After some back and forth we decide on a restaurant and a date / time.  We say our goodbyes and hang up.

Now, at this point I'm moving on to laundry and a little L&O: SVU on my DVR.  (Love that Elliot Stabler!)  Within 5 minutes J is calling me back.  I'm confused, but answer and he says something like, 

"I don't think this is gonna work.  It seems we are in different socioeconomic situations." 

I say,  "How do you mean?"

J: "We're in different socioeconomic situations.  I don't know, it seems like you like expensive things."

At this point, I'm thinking "seriously"?  I just got dumped before a date??  And where is he getting this vibe??  But then again, if J doesn't understand that I am a woman with ambition who can buy her own expensive things, then he's probably not the guy for me. 

The moral:  I will NOT dumb myself down or stop living my life just so I can snag a man.  The man who's worth it will love me...expensive taste and all.  Especially if I'm the one buying! 

The Effects of Alcohol on Dating

Hello people of the blogo-sphere!  First, TGIF and happy Friday to you all :)  One week ago today I was gearing up for an ever-fabulous Match.com date.  Well, per usual it lived up to my low expectations.  Today's topic - appropriate dating questions...

Set A: Appropriate Dating Questions (NOT asked by my date):

1. Did you grow up around here?
2. What's your favorite restaurant?
3. What do you like to do in your spare time?
4. Are you close with your family?
5. Any siblings?

Set B: Inappropriate Dating Questions (a.k.a. ASKED by my date on Friday):

1. What are you on?
2. Are you taking Ritalin (sp)?
3. Are your boobs fake?
4. You're a party-girl, aren't you?

Please note the difference in appropriateness here.  Set A questions is normal...Set B is what I was dealing with on Friday 1 week ago.  In my date's defense he did get pretty drunk.  Oh wait?  Is that a defense?  Or another issue???

On to the next one folks!  But before I leave you...I just got a text from this lovely guy that said "On my 2nd."  Here's the pic - bottom's up!

Getting Back on the Horse...

Hi blog readers!  So it's been awhile and I apologize for my absence.  I took a little break from dating...then dated a guy I really liked...now I'm back on the "horse" (a.k.a. Match.com).

I don't have to explain this one too much. I just want to share a recent encounter on the online dating circuit.  Enjoy:

hi

I looked your profile
u are very beautiful and cute :)
i do not know what i say to you
really u are like an angel..
i looking for true love and marriage and happy life
i respect a good women
let me to u know me more
i wish to see your message
Bob*
(*Name changed to protect the innocent)

This looks like a winner...Did I mention I'd have to move to Dubai?

Let the crazies loose...I'm ready!